Who do you love more?
Are you like us and find that there are too many times when you look up from your phone only to realize you’ve completely missed what’s been happening around you?
Or looked up and taken in the view around you and seen that everyone you love is on some type of device, all of you ignoring that you are sitting next to another human being?
Or gone to bed at night and discovered that your phone (and all of the people on it) were your bedfellows?
Embarrassing to find out that I’m IN LOVE
A startling finding discovered that many of us have the same feelings for our phone that accompany being in love. We are literally IN LOVE with our devices! Is that crazy?
Another study found that what we look at most creates a need, a desire, a love of looking at that thing.
It’s time to fall out of love with our devices…
We’ve talked a lot about getting our need to look at our phones under control. We’ve tried many tactics.
Here are a couple of my favorite ideas:
1. Get an alarm clock that is NOT your phone! This is the biggest reason I bring my iPhone to my bedroom. I need an alarm clock. I hate loud, buzzing alarm clocks and haven’t been able to find one that I like. I like to wake up gently not jolted out of sleep with wild branches wailing (which is what it sounds like to me). Here is an alarm clock that is just what I’d like to wake up to!
2. Feed Ned. I love this awesome idea that Jenny Solar of Happy Family Movement has created. It’s actually not created yet and you can help! They’ve just started a Kickstarter Campaign to put these awesome little Phone Monsters into production. I’m looking forward to having one on my counter to give me the quick reminder to put phone down and live my life and BE with the people I love most. I hate to say how often I look like Jenny in this video:
3. Set boundaries. Decide on some rules for devices. Things like:
No phones at the table
All technology must be put away when a family member arrives home
All technology stays with Ned at bedtime
Technology can be used from 4pm-6pm in the evening, all other times when we are together as a family we have zero screen time.
Bonus: Limit the number of devices you have. Everyone in our family does not have their own device. Sharing devices, even though it adds some complications, introduces the opportunity to get along with having to give each other turns and in playing and encouraging each other.
what about my camera on my phone?
Just like with my big camera sometimes I leave it at home or in the car. I occasionally have to remind myself that I don’t have to document every second of my day or every moment of the life I’m living. If I’m constantly documenting it means I’m not actually living and experiencing. I’m sitting on the sidelines, watching.
Today, sign up to Feed Ned here so you can back to living!
I love technology. It’s so helpful and I love being able to find what I need at the click of a button, keep in touch with friends’ lives, and text people at any moment. I also want to be intentional about living my life outside of my devices.
What do you do?
Please share your ideas on how you make the best of your iPhone and at the same time spend time living a rich life. I’d love to hear them (and I have a feeling I’m not the only one)!