When you are in a committed relationship with somebody, the thought of leaving them can be very upsetting. After all, when you are with a person for a long time, you tend to involve them in all of your plans for the future.
Sadly, not all relationships last, not even the most long-term ones. Studies have shown that divorce rates are through the roof at the moment, so not even marriages are surviving the rise in breakups.
This post will explore this topic some more, telling you how your life could change after ending a long-term relationship.
Getting Back Together
After a breakup, it’s important to consider getting back together, especially if the relationship was a long-term one. A breakup doesn’t have to be the end, but if you decide to give it another go, then you both need to talk through your problems and make sure that you start things off positively. Identify what went wrong so that you can avoid it happening again in the future. Many couples find that going to therapy is an effective way of resolving their problems. If you do plan on getting back with your partner, then make sure it’s definitely what you want. Do not force yourself to fix your relationship if it does not interest you anymore. Do not allow other people to pressure you into getting back together either, i.e., family members or friends.
Friendship Group
If you and your partner have the same friendship group, then breaking up could mean that you aren’t able to see your friends (or confide in them) as freely as you were able to before. Your friends might align with your partner, choosing to be loyal to them instead of you. For instance, they may deem that you’re the one to blame, even though you just went through the process of divorcing a narcissist or left an abusive relationship. They might also choose to completely stay out of it and avoid talking to either of you while the break-up is fresh. If you share the same friendship group as your partner, then be prepared for these things.
Awkward Encounters
If you live in the same area as them, then you might encounter them. Bumping into your partner after a break-up can be extremely awkward. However, while accidental encounters can indeed be awkward, you should not hide from your ex-partner. Hiding from your ex when you know they are around makes it look like you have done something wrong. Instead, be bold and confident. Do not intentionally see them, but if you do happen to bump into each other, then be confident, polite, and move on. If you happen to be at the same social events, then do not leave, either.
More Isolated
After a breakup, you might feel a lot more isolated. The reason for this is that when people are in committed relationships, they tend to spend much more time with their partner than they do their friends or their families. This then means that their friends and families move on with their own lives and find things to do to occupy their time. After a breakup, you cannot expect your friends and family to drop their hobbies, relationships, and friendships just to come to your aid. It’s normal to be a little more isolated post-break-up. In fact, it’s to be expected.
Negative Feelings
Something else that’s to be expected is a cloud of negativity hanging over you. Nobody feels particularly good after a breakup, even if they wanted to get away from their partner. It’s completely natural to feel a little depressed, especially if you had been with your partner for a very long time. However, these negative feelings do not last forever. If they are becoming particularly uncomfortable, then consider reaching out to a therapist. A therapist will help you to work through your issues and overcome them.
Meeting Others
After a break up it’s worth going out and meeting other people. Rebound flings can be a good way of getting over one’s partner. You can use casual hookup sites if going out to bars and nightclubs isn’t your sort of thing. You should make it clear to the people that you match with (or meet with) that you have just gotten out of a serious relationship and do not want anything serious. If you do not clarify this, then the person you start seeing casually could convince themselves that there is hope for a future between you both. It is not nice to give false hope to people.
Relationships end sometimes. When they do, it’s normal to experience depression, isolation, and negative emotions. However, these things do not last forever. If you have just broken up with your ex, then consider getting back with them, too. Working through your problems together could help to make your relationship stronger and bring you closer together.
